There are some extended families who are very cohesive and some who are disjointed. As an adult, I have intrinsically been on an island. Perhaps this is why I believe that family extends beyond a blood line or little green leaf.
There people who do not share my DNA been have been as loyal to me as I have been to them - no betrayal with excuses about their lives and envy of yours; who care about me and my immediate family and check in on us and are supportive. For those folks, I will be forever grateful and will always be there.
The awakening is when expectations quickly turn into disappointments and you see the seasons change with your relationships. Some who begin to change and wither, like autumn transitioning into winter. Some who continue to flourish like the flowers blooming in spring.
I must embrace this admit that I do not want to have that "island" feeling - rather to travel first class to an island. I do however, always want to see the signs....
Listen, when someone always around and then someone else says "why are you always around them" and you then become scarce - that is a sign.
When someone only has time for you when the the focal point is about them and then too busy when you want to share what is going on in your life- yes a sign.
When someone can severe a friendship over something small, but forgive a man for cheating or any other disrespect- signs...
Embrace reality and surround yourself with positivity and consistency. You do not have always be the one to extend an olive branch. Strive for those holistic organic relationships. Life is too short. Know when it is time to re-position people or just give it up.
