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The act of love

Our strength comes from within. Say what you want. Focus on your dreams and goals. Be kind and generous and let the light and love inside you shine through. 

Make sure you let your loved one know you love them and everyone who sees you will know.  Do not be ashamed to show your love!  If someone is ashamed of showing you - then perhaps they don't truly love you and that is ok. Move on. 

Notice I said show and tell!! 


Signs

God sends us messages all of the time. Sometimes I thinks God's reaction is, now come on girl, when are you going to get it?"  As an only child it has been important for me to have a close knit circle - of family and friends.  Although at my the core, feeling that it is really just me and the terrific 3.

There are some extended families who are very cohesive and some who are disjointed. As an adult, I have intrinsically been on an island. Perhaps this is why I believe that family extends beyond a blood line or little green leaf.
  There people who do not share my DNA been have been as loyal to me as I have been to them - no betrayal with excuses about their lives and envy of yours; who care about me and my immediate family and check in on us and are supportive.  For those folks, I will be forever grateful and will always be there.

The awakening is when expectations quickly turn into disappointments and you see the seasons change with your relationships. Some who begin to change and wither, like autumn transitioning into winter. Some who continue to flourish like the flowers blooming in spring.






I must embrace this admit that I do not want to have that "island" feeling - rather to travel first class to an island. I do however, always want to see the signs....














Listen, when someone always around and then someone else says "why are you always around them" and you then become scarce - that is a sign.

When someone only has time for you when the the focal point is about them and then too busy when you want to share what is going on in your life- yes a sign.

When someone can severe a friendship over something small, but forgive a man for cheating or any other disrespect- signs...

Embrace reality and surround yourself with positivity and consistency. You do not have always be the one to extend an olive branch. Strive for those holistic organic relationships. Life is too short. Know when it is time to re-position people or just give it up.

Loyalty Program

We are living in an era where loyalty is becoming extinct.  Yes extinct, like the Amur Leopard, 



the South China Tiger, or the Ivory Billed Woodpecker







Loyalty extends pretty much in warped speed.  This is reflected in the countless “Loyalty Programs” retailers have created so that consumers will return to their establishment – promising discounts.  Frequent flyer miles are competing with the growing websites where you can search for the “best price”. 


 Let’s go deeper – relationships too have suffered.  Many are focused on themselves and having their needs met – without consideration of others family or friend.  There is a sense of entitlement and an outbreak of narcissism.  Loyalty is actually expected on that one-way street – “you be loyal to me” but “hey – nothing personal” when it comes to reciprocation.

"I love you" and “we are family or "besties"– when it is convenient – in other words when it beneficial for me.  Can I come with you to this event, may I borrow some money, can you take me here, come support me or can you do me a favor?  When you say – can YOU……. The slew of excuses start flooding in… I am tired, I can’t, something came up, I don’t have any money, I have a plethora of anxieties…… But what is forgotten, is SOCIAL MEDIA – when those same excuses become miracles and posted on FB, IG, SC.  LOL you are busted. You so lose your credibility and trust. 

Be honest, although the person may not like it – it is still respected. 
The truth is, people do what they WANT to do PERIOD. 
Once you understand or except this fact – your stress and disappointment will diminish.  Whatever you are giving you are receiving.  You make the choice and create the frequency.

Loyalty is a skill – actually a virtue.  No one is perfect and we all make mistakes but do not expect it if YOU don’t give it.